Today is my naming day as I write this – April 14th, the day I was born. On a fresh spring morning I was placed in my father’s arms, a wee redheaded girl arriving after two sons. He named me Valerie, a name he liked in a book he had read, and Evelyn, after my grandmother.
When I was young I loved to hear the stories surrounding my birth. Shortly before my mother was due to have me, my father, a sailor with the Royal Canadian Navy, received orders to report to his ship for a four-month voyage. Out of consideration for my mother, he chose to wait until after I was safely delivered to tell her he would be leaving soon. She was a seasoned sailor’s wife, used to his frequent absences, however, with two small boys and a new baby to care for alone, she felt overwhelmed. She recalls waking up in the morning to a neighbor and her two daughters waiting in the kitchen with a hot breakfast and willing hands to help. They got her through those months before my father returned.
In elementary school I decided to change my name. I thought that Val, which I was called most often, sounded blunt and masculine. I wanted to go by my second name, Evelyn, or better yet, Eve ˗˗ more feminine, romantic names. My mother quashed the idea immediately. Your father chose a perfectly fine name for you, and that’s that, she informed me. Now that I have lived quite a few decades with this name, I must agree with her. I don’t know if my father researched the meaning of the name he chose, but I do believe God knew the name I needed in order to face life’s challenges. I have grown into my name.
The name Valerie has its origins in ancient Rome, feminine of the family clan name Valerius. As an English name it means valiant, strong, brave, fierce. It’s Christian connotation denotes spiritual purpose. Years ago I would have argued that I had been misnamed, if the meaning was meant to be indicative of my character. As a child I often felt inadequate, on the outside looking in at others who seemed more capable, smarter and better liked. I definitely would not have described myself as valiant, strong or brave. When I married, my perceived weaknesses were exaggerated and used by my husband to achieve his own selfish purposes. Years of emotional abuse left me with little sense of self-worth or dignity.
I am so thankful that my God saw value in a devalued woman. He stirred my soul to seek after Him, to discover who I am in His eyes. I kept these verses from His Word, and many others, close by to remind myself of how He saw me.
“Don’t be afraid. I have rescued you. I have called you by name; now you belong to Me. I am the Lord, your God, the Holy One of Israel, the God who saves you. To Me, you are very dear, and I love you.” (Isaiah 43:1, 3, 4 CEV)
Gradually the qualities ascribed to my name began to rise up within me, revealed by God when I needed them most. He imbued me with fierce bravery as I fought to escape from an abusive marriage. When cancer stalked my body, He helped me face the life-threatening disease with valor, relying on His strength to emerge a survivor. My name’s connotation of having spiritual purpose was realized as I absorbed the deep lessons God taught me in the valley of my troubles. My spiritual purpose is to convey the truth of who He is to others through the gifts He has given me.
And my second name? Evelyn means to live; to breathe, derived from Eve, the first woman God created. When the apostle Paul gave his well-known discourse to the people of Athens, he said, “God gives us the power to live, to move, and to be who we are.” (Acts 17:28)
I want to live, to move, and to be who I am valiantly, strongly and fiercely, growing into the names God gave me before I was born.
Valerie's devotionals can be read on her blog https://scriptordeus.wordpress.com
What wonderful names you have, Valerie. Love that God has shown you how special your are in His eyes and heart. May you continue to thrive for His purposes. Thanks for sharing so freely and honestly.ReplyDelete
Thank you for your encouragement, Sharon. Being in the center of God's heart is the best place to be.Delete
I have enjoyed the gentle tracing of your name from that moment your dad gave it to you, through your school years, all the way up to the present day. How wonderful that He directs our steps throughout our lives so that one day we will grow into our names. It's as your mom said, it's a perfectly fine name. Beautiful! Thank you for sharing.
Thank you for commenting, Brenda. I am still growing into my names!Delete
I agree. Thanks for sharing your story and how you once felt devalued. We live in a world which puts certain people in esteemed positions and looks down on others who aren't so favoured. Parents should never say, "Why aren't you like (fill in the blank)?" That makes the one accused of being worse than the named person feel like garbage. I've heard so many episodes on Unshackled where some poor kid was berated and unloved, leading to rebellion and criminality. Let's hope that habit of scolding children for not being like (fill in the blank) decreases.ReplyDelete
I agree with you, Bruce. Positive encouragement and being valued for who they are result in a balanced, secure child. Thanks for commenting.Delete
Valerie Evelyn is a name that floats off the tongue. I loved reading all about how your name is you. :)ReplyDelete
I LOVE the way God used the meanings of your names to encourage you during dark times.ReplyDelete