She couldn’t pronounce the letter “v.” And, yet, stunningly, her name began with a “v.” Valma. A student in my beginner English class, she could read and write fairly well. But her lips couldn’t seem to form into the required shape for certain sounds of the English alphabet. The letter “v” especially bewildered her.
I remember exaggerating my own mouth movements, setting my
upper teeth firmly on my lower lip to help her see what her mouth needed to do.
She would glance at me and laugh at my contorted lower face, then half-try, and
finally fail as her lips met in a very distinct “b” sound. Balma.
She couldn’t pronounce her own name properly.
But I could. So could several of her fellow students,
themselves learners of the English language. We could name her.
In her book, Walking on Water, Madeleine L’Engle
writes on the power of naming. Of course, in her case, she is not referring
simply to the act of verbalizing one another’s names. I especially love how L’Engle
writes about the power of stories to “help us become whole, to become Named.”
My student’s challenge with pronouncing her own name could
be a kind of picture for any one of us who struggles with feeling less than
whole. We may be so broken we can’t even name ourselves. We need someone else
to speak over us.
It’s interesting to me that labels and names stand so close
in meaning, and yet they carry completely different connotations.
We slap labels on pickles and Amazon packages. Our minds pin
invisible labels on our neighbours, church acquaintances, and in-laws.
Left-wing. Right-wing. Charismatic. Selfish.
Many of us may need to peel off labels we or others have
pasted on ourselves over the years. Inadequate. Failure. Stupid. Sloppy.
Labels suit pickle jars perfectly.
But they can harm humans terribly. Labels should come with a
warning: Not for use on people.
However, the act of naming is a completely different story.
He has been named athlete of the year.
We named her after my sister.
They have been named in our will.
We just named our chickens.
Naming in our regular vernacular carries the idea of
bestowing – bestowing recognition, honour, possessions, even personality.
L’Engle also adds this notion of naming as a way to become
whole, to become more fully who we were meant to be.
“When we name each other, we are sharing in the joy and
privilege of incarnation,” L’Engle writes.
My question is, how can we contribute to the wholeness of
one another as Christian writers? How can we name each other?
Again, L’Engle offers a clue. We name one another – that is, we contribute to
one another becoming more whole -- as we create and enjoy art that “leads us to
living more deeply with Christ in God.”
Through the power of the Holy Spirit, may we all as
Christian writers continue to fulfill this calling on our lives until He
returns.
Reference: L'Engle, Madeleine. Walking on Water :
Reflections on Faith & Art. Wheaton, Ill. :H. Shaw, 1980.
Michelle and her family enjoy hiking mountains and trails together. She is currently writing a series called, What Growing Up in a Mennonite Family of 10 Taught Me About Survival. To receive the bi-weekly tips, visit this link and subscribe.
Thank you for this compassion inspiring post, dear Michelle.
ReplyDeleteIt sounds like you are a kind and gentle teacher. Jesus desires this from all believers.
I agree that labels should never be used in an abusive manner. It would be nice if we remembered that when we meet one writer, one Christian, one member of a group, we've only met one. We're all unique no matter what name or category we fall under. This is a topic that's dear to my heart as I wrestle with a new-to-me label I recently adopted. Sadly, it's not safe to disclose it because most people have outdated information about it. Maybe God may call me to write about it and inspire compassion regarding the topic.
I always enjoy how deeply you write.
Blessings.
Thank you Wendy. I'm so sorry you've gone through what sounds like a painful experience with being labelled. May God give you grace to work through it and even, as you say, possibly write about it for the blessing of others someday. Hugs.
DeleteOh, this is deep - and good, Michelle!
ReplyDeleteThank you Tracy!
DeleteWow. So much to think about, Michelle. Will be reading this one a few times over. Thanks for this wonderfully insightful post.
ReplyDeleteThank you Sharon! Blessings.
DeleteMichelle, I will read your post again, like Sharon. I have made concentrated efforts at avoiding labels since I worked as a chaplain. For instance, I always avoided calling people near the final moments of their lives as "the dying." I'm not claiming all staff agreed with me.
ReplyDeleteI love your lovely question, " how can we contribute to the wholeness of one another as Christian writers? How can we name each other?" I am still thinking this question and your post over as I write my comment. I find your word tender and I need to sit with them for a while. They stir my soul.
Thank you Alan. It's interesting how even terms that seem so innocuous, like the dying, can actually diminish a person.
DeleteThanks for this thought-provoking and valuable post, Michelle!
ReplyDeleteThank you Sandi! Blessings!
DeleteEnjoyed this thoughtful post very much, Michelle. Thank you!
ReplyDeleteThank you so much Brenda. Blessings.
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