Every writer knows the vulnerability of
hitting the publish button. Naked is about as close to describing the exposure
I feel after going public with my creations. Whether it's a blog post, a
magazine article or a full-length novel once a writer goes public, feedback
inevitably follows. My published words have accrued more than their fair share of
negative comments, putdowns and biting remarks. And those are the ones from me.
I’m my own worst critic.
Style Critics
Any criticism about style from others – constructive
or cruel – has first passed before me in the familiar tone of my inner voice. “You
suck.” “You think this is good?” “Who is going to waste their time reading
this?” “You call yourself a writer?”
However, isn’t self-criticism the cross
that all writers take up?
My coping mechanism with criticism is
co-opting Jesus’ prayer from the cross, “Father, forgive me for not knowing
what I am doing. And thank you for my critics.”
Friends or Foes
Critics are either the bane or blessing of
writers. I prefer to go with the author of Proverbs – who was no stranger to
criticism – “Faithful are the wounds of a friend.” (Proverbs 127:6)
Critics of your writing can
be friends, can’t they?
Jeff Goins is a fellow scribe and friend of
writers. He says, “No guide or set of tools can prepare you for the rejection
you will face, the criticism you will endure or the pain you will experience.
Because you will. You will get rejected. People will disagree with you. They
may even attack you and call you names.” You Are A Writer, p. 47 (Kindle
edition)
Criticisms may wound you but they don’t
need be fatal.
Content Critics
Criticism of content is a whole different
bottle of ink. Feedback directed at my support for leaders like Tony Campolo
(Why Tony Campolo Will Make You See Red) after his publicized stance on same-sex
attracted Christians came exclusively from Christians. Every time I write about
using prescription medication and psychiatrists to deal with chronic depression
is sure to draw the ire of some believers focused on deliverance as the sole
solution for all things mental.
Some consolation arises from knowing people
are critically picking up what I’m laying down.
There Be Dragons Here
Marshall Shelly authored Well Intentioned
Dragons – a book about chronic critics of ministers. His insights brought
me needed comfort as a pastor and now as a writer.
Shelly says dragons are “…well meaning saints who
leave ulcers, strained-relationships, and hard feelings in their wake. They
don’t intend to be difficult but for some reason they undermine the ministry of
the church and make pastors question their calling. They will drive you crazy
or out of the church. They are openly critical…you’ll feel like a failure. You
need to be prepared to minister while under attack.”
What helped me most was his observation, “Dragons rarely make a
conscious choice to be beastly.”
How To Train Your Dragon
1. Rest: cut yourself some slack.
2. Reflect: not every criticism is an attack.
3. Resolve: refuse to let criticism be a setback.
4. Remember: only the dangerous draw flack.
See your critics as dragons, friends, foes or one in the same, but
expect them and be prepared to write while under attack.
Write on.
I am
a recovering perfectionist who collects Coca-Cola memorabilia and
drinks iced tea. My walls are adorned with our sons’ framed football jerseys,
and my bookshelves, with soul food. I write to grow hope, inspire
people to be real, forge an authentic faith in Jesus, and discover
their life purpose.
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