Only in God’s “upside down” kingdom can we be made whole by
being broken. (Actually, it’s this world that’s upside down. His is definitely
the right way up.)
Let’s consider Romans 5:3-5: “We also glory in our
sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance,
character; and character, hope. And hope does not put us to
shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy
Spirit, who has been given to us” (NIV).
This past year over half a dozen members of our church
family have said their final goodbyes to loved ones. Some had a strong faith
and there is great comfort in that. Still, it isn’t easy to say goodbye to your
son—even though he suffered for a long time, and, in a real way, it was a
relief to know that suffering was over.
And then their was the wife of many years who had to give
her husband permission to stop holding on for her and go home to be with the
Lord. (Just 15 minutes after she did so, he entered the presence of His
Saviour.)
How about the wife who lost her husband to lung cancer,
which developed because of his many years working with asbestos? She knows it’s
the Lord who has carried her through and continues to do so.
Another lady and her husband had just moved into the
seniors’ building across the driveway from our church. They were both confined
to wheelchairs and had several medical issues. Shortly after they moved, on
Christmas Day, her husband passed away. As if that weren’t enough to send her into
a tailspin, approximately two weeks later, her ailing mother succumbed as well.
I can’t even begin to imagine.
Each one of these precious souls could have thrown up her
hands and given up, broken, hurting, defeated. But that’s not what happened.
Although her emotions are still raw, the lady who lost both
her husband and her mom has volunteered to participate in our church’s monthly
clothing giveaway, seeking to bless others in need. Both ladies who lost their
husband of many decades have both expressed how they sense God’s presence and
the prayers of His people sustaining them. And the elderly lady who lost her
son is truly thankful he has found freedom from the suffering he endured for so
long.
Have they learned to glory in their sufferings? I’m not
sure. But I do know they serve as an encouragement—and challenge—to me and
others.
From our perspective, God’s way of doing things is, indeed,
upside down. But, as He works in our circumstances and in us, He brings about
wholeness from our brokenness.
Blessed are those who mourn. . . God knew it would be difficult and sad to say good-bye to our loved ones. Even though we have hope and faith in their eternal life, it is hard to let our loved ones go. How difficult, but loving it would be for the woman married for many years to give her husband permission to go on ahead.
ReplyDeleteWe have recently said good-bye to parishioners we have known for years. This brings to mind how wonderful their faith was and what a wonderful testimony their lives are to family, friends, and the community. Death for the faithful makes parting such a sweet sorrow.
Thanks for sharing your ministry of upholding and comforting those whose love-ones have passed. Blessed too are those who offer comfort.