Showing posts with label Love languages. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Love languages. Show all posts

February 06, 2020

The Magic of Golden Apples by Bob Jones

Do you ever feel like you are living in Narnia?

The writing life can be like living in the cursed kingdom born in the imagination of Clive Staples Lewis where it’s always winter and never Christmas. Spirits sag. Exhaustion sets in. The forecast is for more snow and cold of the emotional kind. Are you living or renting space in such a place?

Narnia’s spell was conquered by the “deep magic from before the dawn of time” and the inhabitants could finally brighten their dark days. Words are the source of a deep magic for my writer’s Narnia. Words - particularly affirming words - brighten my dark days. Gary Chapman lists words of affirmation as one of his five love languages. Affirmation is the language of my soul.

Words of affirmation are refreshing - invigorating. The right words at the right time from the right person are like gold. The sage of the ancient Book of Proverbs opined, "words fitly spoken are like apples of gold in pictures of silver."

The proverb suggests the esteem Solomon placed upon well-chosen words. In his day, when a banquet was given by an Eastern king it was customary to present each guest with a golden apple. These golden apples were placed upon the tables in lovely baskets of silver filagree work and then through the meshes the glittering fruit delighted the guests.


My spirit and writing are rejuvenated through words fitly spoken or written.

Hugh Macmillan says, "The term translated 'fitly' is a very curious one in the original Hebrew. It signifies 'wheels,' and means a word that rolled smoothly and pleasantly from the lips of the speaker to the ears of the hearer. The wise man says that each of your words should be like a vehicle on easy-going wheels, so smooth and courteous that it would produce no jar or shock to either speaker or hearer; not hurt by any harshness or roughness, or leave a painful rut behind in the memory."

Case in point. Vahen King is the first Miss Wheelchair Canada, and founder of Going Farther. I admire her grit and grace. Vahen invited me to organize a mental health conference with her for Bell Let's Talk Day in Edmonton. She invited me be the closing speaker. The day following the Conference she posted on Facebook,

"Bob was REMARKABLE yesterday, and I couldn't think of a better way to end our day, he was funny, engaging, powerful, and challenged us in MANY ways."

Vahen described me as “funny.” Her comment was like a gold star. It’s important to me as a speaker to hear people laugh. It’s a signal that they are emotionally engaged. I’m not naturally funny so I have to work at it. I don’t always succeed.

After publishing a monthly Inscribe contribution, I wait a few days and check for golden apples of fitly written comments on my post. (I can count on the Inscribe tribe to excel at affirming engagement.) I’m refreshed by what people take away from my writing.

I like the words of one unknown author:

“Bring me all the flowers today,

Whether pink, or rose, or red.

I'd rather have just one blossom now

Than a whole truckload

When I'm dead.”

Apples of gold, blossoms of pink, or words of affirmation – they are the magic that breaks the curse of a Narnian winter on a writer’s soul.

December 15, 2016

The Very Best Christmas Gift - Tracy Krauss

This month we're talking about gifts. (Of course we are!)

I have to admit, I am not the best 'gift-giver' on the planet. For anyone familiar with Gary Chapman's The Five Love Languages, you'll know that 'Gift Giving' is listed among the five along with 'Acts of Service', "Physical Touch and Closeness', 'Words of Encouragement', and 'Quality Time'. Each time I've taken the test, 'Gift Giving' has ranked last. (FYI, 'Acts of Service' is ranked highest for me. I'm a 'doer' and appreciate it when people 'do' stuff for me...) This probably explains why getting stuff from people isn't really that important to me. My favourite gifts are things like going out for dinner (so I don't have to cook) or a coupon for something like a day at the spa, or better yet - a maid service!

Some people, on the other hand, are just natural born gift givers. My son is one of those people. He loves to search online for the perfect gift, and not just at Christmas or birthdays. He is always buying someone something cool or meaningful 'just because'. It took my husband and I quite a few years to figure this out, since neither of us are 'gifty'. However, now that we know, we've had to set aside our laissez faire attitudes about gifts and try to find something meaningful for him...

... because showing someone you love them in their own language is a gift in itself.

It's something to think about this holiday season. Sometimes the gift isn't really the important part. It's the thought behind the gift. I pray that you and yours will keep this in mind as you celebrate this year, remembering that Jesus is God's ultimate gift - all year round.

Jerseys he bought for us on our 32 anniversary


Tracy Krauss writes from her home in Northern BC where she lives with her husband. Her son also resides in the basement on occasion... She may need therapy since she's gone from being an empty-nester to a non-empty nester too many times to keep track of. Check out her website at: tracykrauss.com  - fiction on the edge without crossing the line - 


July 07, 2014

God’s Love Language – Ramona Heikel

In an attempt to write in a different genre than usual, I took some ideas and changed them from a blog post to a poetic format. Although you can see I have a long way to go with this genre, I hope the sentiments come through as well as, or even better than, the original.


Heavenly Love Languages


The Wizard of Oz, hiding,
Booming out angry threats,
Frightening with pretended power.
No, Beloved, that isn’t You.

Dystopian ruler, controlling,
Dispatching cruel robot guards:
Keep those people in line!
But this kind of world isn’t Yours.

Inventing and strategizing,
Commanding wayward humans,
Spiritual electric fences and dog collars
Are too harsh to be your way.

Bidding, you draw us, reaching,
Drawing your precious people,
Emmanuel on earth, the Holy Spirit
Wanting time with us, offering your attention.




Yes, you gave your Son, willing,
Now you give the indwelling Spirit,
Even giving talents, ministry, family, all we need,
Loving us with carefully chosen gifts.

Genesis-creation, populating, providing,
Israel-leading, establishing, blessing,
Your prophets warning, teaching,
All these your compassionate acts of service.

Gentle rays of sun on our skin, warming,
Spongy carpet of moss in the forest,
Red velvet petals, cool springs of water,
You are physically near, touching us.

Speaking the truth, writing,
Guiding scribes thousands of years,
Precious preserved scrolls
Offering your eternal affirming words.

Speaking through all your languages, loving,
Never-ending reminders of your affection
On earth as in heaven.
Yes, Beloved, we know this is you.


Posted by Ramona
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